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1.1 Entering adolescence
My older sister was diagnosed with a terminal disease. My mom explained to me my sister is not going to be with us forever, and my sister was my best friend, it was hard. My emotions changed, my thinking of how I have to mature more fast because my dad became depressed and quit his job. My mom was only person making money for family of 6 and five dogs. It caused stress, and emotions were wild at this time. -
2.2 Niche-Picking
I started playing Softball at age 10. Ever since then, I was always around the athletic environment (softball, baseball, soccer, volleyball). Then, getting into high school I only hung out with the athletes and as well in college, hanging with athletes and even working in the athletic department. -
4.1 Gender Type Behavior
Pg. 173 discusses about pro social behavior. It is found in women than men which I believe is true. Thinking back to my middle school days I was very involved in volunteer work and most of the people who volunteered were women, we helped feed the homeless, pick up trash, after school help for the disabled and kids, and from reading the textbook it states females are more kind,considerate, and sharing, which I now realize maybe why more women were involved in the volunteer work rather than men. -
4.2 Non-Gender type behavior
I am going to relate this to women being more "people oriented" as men being more "things oriented."(Galambos, Berenbaum, & McHale, 2009) During middle school I was always looking for a new relationship (maybe I didn't like being alone) but constantly I was with friends looking for someone to like and get into a relationship with, and men were mostly talking about xbox, video games, and didn't have the care for relationships just yet, which the text says boys are able to be alone. -
2.1 Early Maturer
I started puberty when I was 9 years old, therefore consider myself early maturer. Reading the text on page 56-57, it's not as consistant because it mentions how early maturer tend to smoke, drink, be depressed, have an eating disorder, struggle with independence, fear, most likely no graduate from HS, and marry early. None of these examples given was no applied to me. I graduated HS, went to college, have a fiance, however not married just yet and I am 25. -
3.1 Imaginary Audience
The example from the book, gave me memories of having similar thoughts. Every time I walked on campus, or in class I always assumed everyone was looking at me. I remember this too well because if I was about five minutes or more late to class I will not show up due to feeling like when I was walking in and everyone was looking at me, judging me in ways.
It is funny thinking about it now, but I really did not show up due to thinking everyone was looking at me. -
7.3 Intrinsic Motivation Cont.
My experience matched the text because it was a challenge and self determination for myself to set goals to learn a new language for someone I never met. -
8.1 Rite of Passage
In the Mexican tradition we have something called a Quinceanera. It was a big ceremony i had with friends and family members. Which I had at the age of 15 where I celebrated the passing of my girlhood now to womanhood. Going to church receiving a blessing from the priest and committing myself to protecting sexual virginity. My material matched the text because this is the tradition my family had for when my sisters and I were transitioning to adulthood -
7.2 Transition to High School
From middle school to high school was a tough transition. In middle school I joined Cross Country which I had many friends. Then in High school, all my close friends transitioned to drugs and alcohol, which made me step away since I did not want to go down that path. I ended up wanting to change schools to explore new friends, new start, and independence for myself. I attended a high school which was diverse with Chinese students as well as Chinese language used in some classes. -
7.3 Intrinsic Motivation
I experienced was my freshman year of high school when I met my best friend Vanessa who is Deaf. She was a classmate who was always alone because of no communication with others. I did not know her, but wanted to begin talking to her which I then began learning ASL, I looked on youtube, took lessons from a tutor. This was a choice for myself to learn a new language for fun and being able to have a conversation with my classmate who turned out to be my best friend. -
3.2 Differentiation
In my understanding of the book I see myself as a 14 year old considering myself under differentiation because if someone were to ask me to describe my 14 y/o self I would say what my family is "funny, smart, outgoing" but then I would add what the trend was with my friends, they were dancers and runners, but I would say I'm a dancer and love to run. -
3.3 Real vs. Ideal
Reading this brought back memories to my 14 y/o self. I remember I would have this vision of who I tried to be and then I would try to cut my hair to be like them, or wear make up, dress similar, and when I saw myself I became very disappointed because I didn't look like the "popular girls or the model in a magazine" -
6.2 Companionship
In high school I met my best friend who identifies herself as Deaf, I was the only one who learned ASL for her. Her family speaks Spanish which is one reason we bonded quickly. We lived about 5 minutes away from each other therefore I was with her almost every day. She was always supporting me, coming over for dinner, and was always involved with my family and I. She got pregnant at 17 which made our bond stronger since I began to help her more often. -
6.3 Physical Support
Throughout high school my mom was unable to take me to school because of her caretaking for my sister, I had a friend who was a junior at the time always give me rides to school and pick me up almost similar to a "big brother." He would attend sporting events with me, I played softball therefore some away games our school couldn't afford a bus, my friend would drive me and wait till I finish then take me back home. -
6.1 - parent-adolescent conflict
My cognition changed during my 8th grade year transitioning to High school. I met these girls who were bad influences, and started socializing with them. Growing up I always obeyed my mother, when she told me to do chores, I did. Growing up I began the mentality of "it's not something I NEED to do, it's something my mom wants me to do." Eventually I started to refuse to (e.g. wash the dishes) I would say I did not use those, so I don't need to clean. This caused arguments with my mom and I. -
6.1 Parent-adolescent conflict 2
Another conflict I had with my parents growing up was around the same time in 8th grade, I started to dress more bad-street like, kind of related to "ghetto" how people call it nowadays. My dad did not approve and refused to let me go out looking like this. It was the trend at my school, therefore I refused to change, instead I would sneak out behind my parents back which caused major problems when I arrived back home. -
1.2 Emerging Adulthood
I turned 18, I graduated high school and immediately started working at Disneyland and Kaiser Permanente. I had to make money and get two jobs since my dad quit his job and stopped working for about 8 years. It was TOUGH, I had two jobs and tried to continue my education for college I wanted to become a radiologist. -
7.1 Transition to College
Transition to college from High school was difficult for me, because in high school I was known with many friends since I was an athlete. This community was small in my school with 6 sports. Being the "top dog" senior year transitioning to a private university was hard. I did not have many friends, I was not considered an outgoing person. I became shy and stressed out due to not having friends. This affected my mental health as well as all my grades for freshman year.