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Antenatal
I was on my way to be born at a then family of 3.My mom was healthy .It was uneventful pregnancy.I did not give my mom too much stress and every thing was smooth. -
My birth year
I was born at Wahcantt (city of Pakistan) hospital via normal delivery. I was the second child,but first girl in family. -
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0-2 years (Cognitive development)
Though I was doing good with all my milestones but I think I was not very fond of talking. So by the age of 1 I was just saying ma,da, etc.It was a concern for my mom why I don't talk,but doctors reassure her.
At the age of 2 I started to talk a few words, bur still way behind as compare to my elder brother's speech progression. -
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0-2 years (psychosocial development)
This was the period I was most friendly,happy baby.Though I achieved stranger anxiety at about 9-10 months, but stillmost of the time I prefered to be held by my uncles, aunts.
I was toilet trained by the age of around 20 months.My mom told me I had many accidents.As far as emotions are concerned I was more close of my mom.My dad hardly get
invloved with kids, so my all attachments were with my mom. -
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0-2 years (biosocial development)
By the time of my first birthday,I followed quiet regular schedule for my nap and my sleep.I was a chubby baby not a fuss to be fed. I started teething,crawling around 9 months
By the age I was 2 I started walking,I was not fond of running, so mostly I prefered to play by sitting with my dolls and hiding them with my elder brother. -
First tooth eruption
I had my first tooth eruption,accompanied with lots of salivation.Putting everything in mouth was my favourite. -
Grandma moved in
My maternal grandma moved in with us after the death of her father.She was a widow, lived with her dad.My mom was the only child -
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Early childhood(Cognitive development)
This was the precious time for me.I started to go pre school.Though at first I did not talk too much,but by the time I started kindergarten I was a complete chatterbox.I was a brilliant child, but often I was been scolded because I talked too much in class. -
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Early childhood (psychosocial development)
This was the time period,I had so many fast friends.It was hard to decide which one was the best.I played with them all the time, during school, after school,till dusk.Luckily we all share the same neighbourhood.
I developed tentorums as well, but my mom had certain restrictions of behavior, so mostly I hid my feelings of anger/sadness -
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Early childhood(Biosocial development)
I was chubby baby,as I was growing I was much fond of eating , though I did not over eat.I was not a picky eater, but I loved to eat chicken all the time.
I was left handed,but my mom thought this is not a good habit to use left hand while writing or eating, so she used to tie my left hand .As a result today my dominent hand is right one, though still I do many things by using my left hand.I can hop only my left foot.So my mom made me little confused by not allowing to use my left hand. -
Birth of my younger brother
Life was going smooth.My grandma moved in with us.In 1976 there was another addition in my family,my younger brother.Though I don't remember how did I behave at that time, but my mom told,that I was quiet surprised to see a baby . -
Started Kindergarten
After a long wait,I finally entered the same school where my brother used to go.I was very excited, never wanted to come home. -
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Middle childhood(Cognitive development)
By the time I was in elementary level,I was a brilliant student.My academic achievments are still a pride for me.I was able to compete in my class.I participated in debates .I was a good speaker and won many prizes. -
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Middle childhood(Psychosocial development)
At this stage , I was given certain chores,which include ironing, dusting etc.Honestly speaking at first I thought I am a grownup, but then I just wanted to hang aorund with my friends,neglecting my chores.On the otherhand I was very hardworking student.I used to do my homework by all my heart.I had good time at school, competing on studies with my friends. -
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Middle childhood(Biosocial development)
I was doing good with my biosocial development.I had my first dentist in my middle childhood.Though I never liked to go over there, I did not like the tingling sensation of teeth cleaning.Only sport I liked to play was jumping rope,and hop scotch. -
Lost 1st molar
My mom told I was sad to loose my child, beacuse I thought I look funny. -
Birth of my sister
I was enjoying my life being the only girl in family.This proud of ONLY girl was gone when my younger sister was born.I was happy
to be a big sister. I remember I tried to take care of my younger sister as much as I could. -
I won SCHOLARSHIP
I won the scholarship at elementary level.Out of 1000 students only top 10 students recieved that scholarship.I was one of them,that scholarship was supposed to give uptill middle school.I was so proud to have my very own money. -
Neardeath Experience
I was lyingdown on bed ,my brothers were palying wrestling,one on my left-side, other on my right side,I suddenly sat down and my brother's punch was right on my chest.I passed out.What I saw during that time, there was a green wall with a small passage, my half body is in that green land ,and half is in my house.Very tall people in green gowns pulling my both hands, but on the other hand my mom is pulling my legs,and all of sudden my mom pulled me by all her force and I was back in my home. -
Start of Middle school
After wonderful elementary achievements.............I proudly entered middle school.Backhome we had same school, from kindergarten till 10th grade, just the different buildings. -
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Adolescence(Cognitive Development)
I liked to be independent.My center of thought was myself.I developed egocentrism.Getting more closer to religion, especially during exams.Still good in middle school, facing no behavioral problems.I had limited freedom for internet.Doing great in high school. -
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Adolescence(Psychosocial Development)
By this age I wanted my own identity,most of the time I considered that my mom is not right,what I am thinking is 'perfect'.Though I was not close to my parents,but I feel safe under their supervision.I did not have any fast friend,so I wanted to have one, but some how I ended up with a triangle of friends.I had very limited or almost no sexual knowledge,so never got involved in any sexual issue.Drug abuse was pretty uncommon around my environment. -
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Adolescence(Biosocial development)
Life was going smooth,no major changes uptill now, but now I think I am no more kid.I had a very little knowledge about puberty,so starting menarche was worrisome experience for me.My mom did not explain all the changes earlier,though she talked to me later, but I think I was feeling my self as a sick person.I was still a thin and lean girl,did not face any eating disorder.Back home , we were not aware of sexual knowledge, so by this time my life revolved only around my friends and family. -
Proudly won President scholarship
What a memorable year,though I already won elementary school scholarship,this one was even more challenge for me.Thank God I was successful -
High school enterance
My memorable time period.Only way to enter in good college,is to get highest mark.So I was pretty serious in my studies. -
Moved to another city
That was a sad movement for me, we were moving to Karachi.After spending my whole childhood in Islamabad,it was very painful.I was very upset.My friends were only memories, I shed lots of tear and finally came to karachi. -
Got Metric result
We already moved to Karachi,My uncle was in Islamabad ,he told me the result.I couldnot believe ,I was in to 15 students,in whole province.Excited and proud to myself.
I lost that excitement when I got to know that this time I could not win scholarship,I got total marks 714,and the students who were receiving scholarship,last score was 721.Ah I can not forget those loss of 7 marks.Though I won some kind of scholarship, which was only for top 15, but I had a heavy feeling in ny chest. -
College addmission
My first experience.Those7 marks who took my scholarship,also created a problem in my college.I was not in a zone of very best college of Karachi,only way to get there was high percentage.Can you believe,I could not get admission because I was 7 nos. away from merit.Another shock for me.Finally I went to 2nd best college,but I was not happy, having the feeling of rejection. -
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Emerging Adulthood(Cognitive Development)
I was getting more practical.I started to manage my time.I was pretty much serious about my future,so I chose to go to medical college.My interaction with other people was not very good..My memorable day when I graduated from my Medical school. -
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Emerging Adulthood(Biosocial Development)
In this time period ,I was graduated from high school,excited to go to college.Though my academic performance was not as good as in my childhood, but still I got to manage my study to get admission in Medical school.I was pretty much a shy girl,with no mood disorders, but I think my anxiety level was increasing.I was not involved in exercise, but was conscious about maintaining my weight.I was not involved in any kind of risky sport,instead I was pretty much careful in all aspects. -
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Emerging Adultohood(Psychosocial Development)
I think I started to rise my self esteem.Though friends were important part of my life, but unluckily I did not have any best friend.In my culture same sex friendship is the only way of friendship,so I have couple of female peers.Idealism about life partner was a good topic among all friends,Cohabitation is a sin in my religion and culture, so never thought about this.My parents were only my financial support,so I was still dependent on them.By this time I was engaged with my future hubby, -
Medical college admission
After a long journey,with unforgetable help of my father,I got admission in Medical college.Mine and my father's dream 'to be a doctor' came true.
I was first person in my whole family, including extended one, who went to medical college. -
Got my medical licence
After working so hard,now I was happy finally to become Doctor. -
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Adulthod(Cognitive Development)
Though my IQ level same, but I have to struggle to stay smart.I help my kids in their studies.I am raising them and responding well to emotional complexities. Challenges of family life are recognized by my expert work.
I am getting experienced. My maturation level is definitely increased. -
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Adulthood (Psychosocial Development)
Now I have done so many things,kids are growing up,but for my self I think I am dealing with middle life crisis.I am more close to my kids.We are best friends, share so many thoughts.I have more understanding with my siblings.I am more concerned about my aging parents.One positive change me and hubby are getting closer to each other, as my kids have their own activities. -
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Adulthood(Biosocial Development)
I am an adult now.Got married, having kids.Now its the time I can see the aging signs.My brain is aging, so my thoughts.I see my skin more dryer, rougher.My body shape is not like that, which it used to be.I can not see far objects very clearly,I need glasses for reading as well.I am heading towards menopause,which is the end of my fertile life.I am not very active,having some health issues.Hormonal changes making me to gain weight.Though I feel my sex life is better as compare to past. -
Specialization in Pediatrics
I always have interest in pediatrics, so after passing test,I got admission in DCH at Civil hospital Karachi.Unfortunately,for some personal reasons I had to quit my course. -
Marriage
Life changing event.I left Pakistan, came to USA, after marrying a mechanical engineer. -
Birth of my son
After a long complicated pregnancy, my son was born prematurely.Other than low birth weight, he was doing good,came home after 21 days of stay in NICU. -
Moved to Canada.
Pregnant with my 2nd child, having fear of another complicated pregnancy I moved to my parents house, who came to Canada just 2 months after I came to USA. -
Birth of my daughter
I had another preemie, stayed in NICU for 51 days.Finally had her home. -
Came back to USA
My husband works here, so it was hard to commute every day from windsor to detroit, so we moved back to USA. -
Death of my Grandfather
That was a very sad moment. I was very close to my grand father. I feel emptiness when I think about him.Still sometimes I hallucinate that he is somewhere near me. -
Preparing for Physician assisstant
My kids are big kids now.After dealing with 2 preemies,I finally made some decision for my self. After a long thought I decided to get ready for physician assisstant program,,and took admission in Schoolcraft, that is my first education experience in USA. -
Psychology admission
Psychology is my 1st online, but 2nd educational course in USA.So far I am feeling pretty good to get an online course.With the help of my Instructor I think I am in good shape to learn Psychology. -
Got admission in EASTERN MEDICAL UNIVERSITY
After spending so many years,I finally got admission in Easren Michigan University, as a physician asisstant student. -
My son done with Elementary
My son is growing so fast,now going to middle school. -
My daughter done with Elementary
My little girl is now going to middle school.Time passed so fast. -
Finally A Physician Assisstant
Now I am happily graduated from University as a physician assisstant. -
Got a job
I got a decent job as physician assisstant. -
Son goes to High School
My son is a big boy now, going to high school. -
Daughter's turn to be a High schooler
My daughter is not very far from her big brother.She is in high school now. -
Son goes to college
Big day for all of us.My little boy is a college student. -
Daughter is a college girl
She is just following her brother in every field of life. -
Son got professional college admission
All hard work paid off.My son got admission in a professional college. -
Graduation day
My son is officially graduated. -
Daughter got professional liscence
Finally time to celebrate. -
Son got job
After a descent degree , my son finally got the job. -
Daughter's marriage
I am happy, but sad.My girl is getting married. -
Son's marriage
I welcome my daughetr in law. -
Welcome First grandkid
I am a grandmother,wow..............what a feeling.I am flying,no one can understand my feelings of joy,astonishment,proud,all mixed together.I am ready to share my love to that little angel. -
Welcome grandchild
I can not believe, my boy got the honor of being a father.Still I remember the feelings of the day my son was born, Now I experience wonderful feelings by holding that little beautiful soul. -
Hubby is retired
After a long journey, now time to relax.Enjoying retirement life -
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Late Adulthood (Cognitive Development)
My brain is slowing down.I am more forgetful,I need shopping list to avoid forgetting any thing.My cognitive abilities are decreasing, may be I have dementia,but my long term memory is working.I like to remember my past.I talk a lot about the events of the past. -
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Late Adulthood (Pyschosocial Development)
I am getting more self oriented.I value my sense of self more importantly than any one one else.I go for volunteer work to be socially active.I spend most of my time to improve my home living.I look at my grown up kids,but I treat them as toddlers. I am more close to God.I like to spend my time with my grandchildren.I want them to learn our family values. -
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Late Adulthood (Biosocial development)
Life is passing, I am developing sign of aging, so dealing with ageism,trying to remain positive.Along with primary aging, I am also facing secondary aging.I am hypertensive as it runs in my family.My sleep pattern disturbs me,very little sleep.Now I am more conscious while driving,I drive slowly in right lane.I am afraid of falling, so most of the time I walk slowly.My sensory impulses are almost lost.I am having mild wear and tear of aging.My immune system is weak so I got sick more easily. -
Enjoying retirement life
Though there is no major responsibilty,taking care of home and doing some volunteer work........finally we decided to have a world trip.Oh its so exciting,me and hubby exploring the world. -
Moving to RANCH
After returning from world tour, now I feel my body needs rest.Oh its hard to do daily chores.I am having difficulty to climb up the stairs, so we decided to move to a small ranch. -
Hypertension
High blood pressure runs in my family, so despite taking care of my diet, I am on medication for hypertension. -
Dementia
I don't consider myself as a forgetful person, but Oh I forget a lot of things.People say I am facing the state of dementia.I don't believe that,but its happening. -
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Death and Dying
Though I don't like to talk about my end of life,but everyone has to go. I believe death is the final part of life,its not an end ,its a way to another immortal life. I am living everyday of my life with my close people.I achieved my dreams.I did all my best in every realtionship.Now I think my Lord wants me to come to a never-ending life.I will live there forever.I will see my children and grandchildren from upthere.Wishing them all the best.I pray to God for an easy death. -
Time to say Goodbye
I like to talk about my past,its like a movie,I keep watching and watching.........but I barely recognize the faces.I think I fullfilled my duties with all my heart.I can not say that I was a good daughter, good wife or good mother, but I was honest in all my relationships.Now I need rest.I hope my kids, grandkids will remember me with a feeling of proud.( I died peacefully).