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Birth Newborn and First Two Years
Brazelton Neonatal Behavioral Assessment Scale NBAS
Bonding
Biosocial - Brain Development, Motor Skills
Cognitive - Primary,Secondary, Tertiary Circular Reactions; Information Processing; Language
Psychosocial - Emotional Developement, Social Bonds, Attachment, Social Referencing -
Early Childhood
Biosocial - Connection of Brain Hemispheres & Brain Development; Improved Motor Skills, Fine Motor Skills
Cognitive - Preoperational Intelligence, Social Learning, Childrens Theories, Language Grammer
Psychosocial - Emotional Development, regulation, motivation, Play, Emapthy, Antipathy -
Kindergarden
Bio Social - Immunizations at the doctors (a mouse face drawn on my arm); playing in the Kindergarden room and outside on the playground,
Cognitive - classification, transitive inference, Mrs. Tanki reading to us while we sat in a circle on a letter of the alphabet.
Psychosocial - Listening to Grimm's Fairy Tales with headphones in a big leather chair at my Grandparents house, and learning to draw. -
Grade School 1st to 8th grade
Bio Social, - Playing Army, Red Light Green Light, riding bikes everywhere, Litttle League, Golfing with Dad
Cognitive - St. Damian School, Sister Mary Katari, Felician Nuns, Bookbags, School uniforms, reading groups, religion class
Psychosocial - Taking out the garbage, helping Dad with the cars, Learning to tie shoes in the basement, and telling time. -
Graduation 8th Grade
Bio Social - Getting as tall as Mom, playing softball at recess, playing "soccer" at recess.
Cognitive - Taking the entrance exam for High School and getting in
Psychosocial - having a lawn cutting "business" working for the neighbors tax business, babysitting -
Dating and Highschool
Biosocial - caring about appearence, the right haircut, glasses
Cognitive - Trading classrooms, gym class, biology, chemistry, german, religion classes
Psychosocial - Sadie Hawkins dances, going to football, basketball games. First Girlfriend -
Graduation High School started College
Bio Social, - Working out
Cognitive, - accepted to Wayne State University, papers, deadlines
Psychosocial - Working to pay for school, driving downtown to go to school, meeting new people -
Hired as a Line Worker
Psychosocial, First "adult" job making enough money to pay for all of college. Hot loud factory, meeting coworkers on the line, the smell of oil in the air. Becoming independant, an adult. -
Hired as a Coop Student
Cognitive - Learning how to work in an office
Psychosocial, - interviewing for the biggest opportunity in my life to date, the bullpen office, my first desk in a finance office -
Graduated College
Cognitive - Papers, finals, class projects with classmates, standing in line at the placement office
Psychosocial - The Fraternity, parties, ski trips, worrying about finding a job, (it was the "great recession") dating, meeting my future wife -
Married
BioSocial, - Working out,
Psychosocial - Engagement, the ring, planning for the wedding, the wedding, building the house, starting life as an adult -
Divorced
BioSocial - the realization I was gay, the big secret
Psychosocial - My wife seen with another man -
Graduation with a Masters
Cognitive, night classes while working, group projects with classmates.
PsychoSocial - working out, becoming social with classmates, first dating experiences with men. -
Mom dies
PsychoSocial - Depression, alone, spending hours on the phone with siblings as we try to cope with Mom's untimely death. -
Met my Late Partner
BioSocial - dating coming to an end, accepting myself as a gay man
Psychosocial - Finally meeting "the one" finally feeling true safe love. acceptance from families, friends. Built a great life as Uncle Joe and Uncle Randy. Attending many family events. -
Cohabitated with Late Partner
Biosocial - full adult relationship, romance, monagomy,
Psychosocial - Built the dream house, large family gatherings, large gatherings with friends, feeling like we finally made it. Getting involved with Church and the Gay Chorus. -
Michigan Votes to ban marriage for same sex couples
Psychosocial - I will not be allowed to marry my life partner in the state of Michigan.
Cognitive - according to state law we are not related
Biosocial - not allowed to self identify as a couple, causing great stress -
Sudden Death of Late Partner
PsychoSocial, - Major Deppression, shock, very lonely, feeling that life was over, just waited to die. Love and support from both families as we work through this. -
Met New Partner
BioSocial - working out losing weight, caring about my appearence, how I look in clothes again.
Cognitive - the practical aspects of dating today, social networks, smart phones
Psychosocial - The first date, the first kiss, with my new man -
Retired, Started Class Full Time
Cognitive - New classes, tests, finals, science classes, learning how to learn again, how to study, how to take tests after 20 years.
Psychosocial - excitement with the new material, relief from the drudgery of the finance department after 32 years. -
Defense of Marriage Act struck down by the Supreme Court
Psychosocial - hope to be considered legally a couple in the State of Michigan soon, just like all my neighbors, and family. It is most important in times of illness and death. Although legal measures can be made when both partners are alive, the surviving partner looses all control at the moment of death. Fortunately, my late partners family was very loving
Cognitive - the law is still complicated for those of us in states with constitutional bans.
Biosocial - some stress is removed -
Start Nursing School
Cognitive - learning how to care for patients
Psychosocial - new classmates with a common interest -
Graduation Nursing School
Cognitive - classes, clinicals, exams, finals
Psychosocial - new career, second chance at life as a new adult. -
Marry Partner
BioSocial, - Monogamy
Psychosocial - First legal marriage, since marrying my former wife (hopefully) -
London and Paris
Cognitive - Tour historic London and Paris
Psychosocial - 2 weeks away with the one I love
Biosocial - The first in a series of dream vacatons to keep us active -
The Grand Canyon
Cognitive - touring historic Grand Canyon
Biosocial - training to hike around Grand Canyon
Psychosocial - a couple weeks away to focus on the relationship -
A Month in Maui
Psychosocial - the ultimate second honeymoon
Biosocial - keeping active and fit (gotta look good in the pictures)
Cognitive - learning of other cultures -
Tour of Poland & the Ukraine
Cognitive - touring historic Poland, the place of my Grandparents birth,
Psychosocial - to see the picture of my name sake hanging in Auschwitz
Biosocial - keeping active and fit, to hike around Europe -
Italy
Cognitive - touring historic Italy
Psychosocial - seeing some of the greatest works of art with my Husband
Biosocial - keeping fit and active, maintaining a healthy lifestyle -
Retire from Nursing
Psychosocial - Time to stop working a job, start more travel and socializing with Family and Friends. Volunteer at the Capuchin Soup Kitchen with friends
Biosocial - having more time to stay fit -
One last downsize to a smaller home
Psychosocial - finding just the right place to spend the last chapters
Biosocial - time to move when the stairs and housework are too much for the joints to take
Cognitive - simplyfying for less to worry about. -
The great roadtrip around the States and Canada
Cognitive - buying an Airstream and seeing the states close up
Psychosocial - being in very close quarters with the one you love for months at a time
Biosocial - staying fit in order to take trips, staying active to promote a healthy lifestyle -
The first Great Great Niece/Nephew is born
Psychosocial - My oldest Greatniece gives birth to her first child
Biosocial - maintaining long term loving family relationships
Cognitive - becoming a family historian passing the past on to the future -
The last Great Niece gets married
Psychosocial - Great Uncle Joe and Uncle Paul watch the last great niece get married.
Biosocial - maintaining healthy family relationships
Cognitive - staying connected to family and friends -
Leave Earth for Great Reward
Biosocial - the body gives out
Cognitive & Psychosocial - the new journey begins