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2.1- Late Maturer
I learned that I was maturing late in Middle School because everyone was ahead of me and I was really ashamed of it. Everyone was talking about their body experience and cool they got to mature early and all. That is when my growth spurt kicked in and I got taller and looked more mature. (The picture was taken when I was 12) To be fair, everyone was older than me so I was the youngest. It could be the reason why I felt like I was maturing late -
8.1- Rite of Passage
When I came to that certain age, I finally got to realize that I have been going to Florida every year and my family believes that it is a reward for me and Tyler completing the year well and February was the perfect month to visit Florida so we got to do this every February/March. It became one of our tradition and we get to become more responsible by figuring out when and where to go while on a road trip to Florida from New York. I feel like that is where it became Horner's Rite of Passage -
4.1- Gender-typed behavior
When I was in Middle School, I always loved to be in several tag games and it was men based game! As I looked back, I was involved in many physical aggression activities and I think it was one of my ways trying to fit in. -
4.2- Non-gender typed behavior
There are times where gym teachers or any activity that would split two different groups such as genders and that is where I asked to see if I can be part of girls because I can relate with them sometimes. Not just that there are times where recess happens, I would be with girls just to rapport talk or talk my feelings out as in self-disclosure. -
3.1- Imaginary Audience
In Middle School, I really wanted everyone to pay attention to me because my self-esteem was low so I decided to dye my hair and that's how I got everyone's attention. That is Imaginery Audience and I had to use it because my egocentrism was low. -
Entering Adolescence
I was enrolled in MSSD in Fall 2014 and it was when I realized that I became a teenager because it was where I let go of my parents and had to learn things where I had to wash my clothes, wake up by alarm clock, and going out on my own. Not just that, I also formed new friendships where I get to choose who is right for me. -
2.2- Niche-picking
I always grew up loving being in the theatre. I never showed any interest in sports which is shocking because everyone in my family loves sports and I don't. That is where I decided to explore more by being in the theatre. I was able to find a great group of friends that supported me throughout High School. I think I made that choice because my family is a people person and I happened to make that choice because I love working with people. So basically it does support me and my journey to Gally -
2.2- Niche-picking
When I first entered MSSD, I immediately knew that I would love being in a play and I find it interesting because none of my family does theatre and they are big on sports. But I do notice that they do love being surrounded by people such as participating in several sports so that's why I love being in different plays so I can work with many different people. -
3.2- Fluctuation
When I went to the camp for 2nd time and I know I was more confident in myself. I got there and something inside me changed and I became nervous and cranky. I wasn't sure why but I could tell how jealous I got when I see my friends hanging out with others. That is when I decided to change, so I went to a new group of friends and I felt so much better. It was my self-protection because I was trying not to get myself hurt. -
7.1- Transition to High School
When I just finished my 1st year of HS, I knew I wasn't happy so I decided to transfer to MSSD which is in DC and I always thought the transition would be tough due to living in a different state away from my family then I got to MSSD, I was kinda emotional until I got to experience different classes and all. I got to be more independent and that was the best part. -
3.3- Contradiction
During Sophmore Year, I was at the lowest with myself, I always thought I was the weirdest one so I couldn't really get anyone to like me and every friend of mine always got attention and that is when I couldn't really handle it and that is when I started seeing my counselor and I am truly grateful that it did help. My own self-esteem was derailing and that is why I was at the lowest. -
7.3- Intrinsic Motivation
When they announced the play Beauty and the Beast at MMSD, I was thrilled to audition as the Beast but I didnt get it and I was very disappointed. Later on, they found out the Beast might not be able to perform due to other commitments so I got to be the Beast but in the end, what I was doing was selfish so I decided to follow my intrinsic motivation by giving up so the play would be much better by having the original Beast so I helped him out. I was glad that I was able to make the right choice -
6.1- Parent Adolescent Conflict
Odd how I remember the specific date, it was when I came out to my mom and she didn't take it very well and it was a very emotional night for me. She took it hard and I believe it was the generation gap because we both were in completely different generations and it shows. She brought up everyday issues like where I might be bullied, rejected and etc. Not just that, she thinks that it was a phase for me so I could go back as a straight person. -
Emerging Adulthood
In 2017, I went to Gallaudet for my 1sy year and I also believe that I did emerge into an adult because there were many choices that I had to make and making the right choice is like a step closer to adulthood. I got to experience so many different things just like other adults do. Of course, there were so many obligations and responsibilities I had to make such as having a job and it is where I fell in love with having a job and I am in my 3rd year, I have 8 jobs since I first enrolled here. -
6.2-Companionship
There are times where I do feel lonely so I have a really close friend so he would always cheer me up by doing different activities such as going out and watching a movie. He would just offer his eyes where I can rant or disclosure. -
7.2- Transition to College
The transition from HS to Gallaudet was really easy for me because MSSD and Gallaudet are on the same campus and I personally think I had the transition easy then I got to learn that it is different because I got to experience more independence. The diversity there was completely different than what I thought. The exploration was interesting because I was able to find my identity easily. -
6.3- Intimacy/Affection
The same friend I described in Companionship, as time goes, we got more closer to the point where we became roommates. That is where I realized how great he is. I just know it because of how warm I felt with him, close and trusting with him. We would self-disclosure when we feel the need because we realized how important it is to communicate. Page 305 mentions that Intimacy is where we also share our private thoughts with each other. That shows a lot in our friendship.
