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6.2 Companionship
I had just transferred to a new elementary school where I met one of my friends (I am still friends with him to this day). He provided companionship because we spent time together, we did activities, joined clubs, and joined band together. I think that this concept applies to everyone but it was different in my situation. I went to a mainstreamed school and my friend was deaf so we both were friends because one of the reasons was that we were both deaf. He was a familiar friend. -
2.1 Early Maturer
I am an early maturer because I have faced many things that the book mentioned. I had earlier dating experiences, depression, and an eating disorder. I did not have much of a growth spurt but I had to deal with a lot of peer pressure especially because I was noticeably an early maturer. I have extremely anxiety problems and I get stressed very easily. It is linked to what the book mentioned and I believe that I was an early maturer, especially because I hit puberty at ten years old. -
1.1 Entering Adolescence
I set this date to be the date that I entered adolescence because that is when I was starting to experience growth spurts, puberty, and egocentrism. I experienced conflicts with relationships with my friends, family, and my parents especially because I had experienced mood swings. This was also the first date I had slept in past ten in the morning, due to staying up until 3am for the first time. This behavior matches to the description perfectly due to many changes to my life. -
7.3- Intrinsic Motivation
Based on the book's decription, I believe that I had intrinsic motivation that ignited in the 6th grade because it was right after my parents divorced. I became very self-determinated, responsible, and made good choices. I believe that the motivation came from seeing what happened with my parents and how my Mom could not take as well taken care of us because she did not complete college. Being determinated impacted my education and achievements a lot because it made me do well in general. -
4.1- Gender-typed behavior
An example of a gender-typed behavior was when I was in the 8th grade, a group of girls spread rumors about me in order to manipulate people not to like me (relational aggression). This happened because I was getting more attention due to being Deaf. It took attention away from them. It was an unfortuate experience but I learned from it by being more careful with who I socialize with. This is related to the book because it mentions that girls are more likely to become relational aggressive. -
4.2- Non- gender typed behavior
The very same day as the event 4.1 occurred, there was a non-gender typed behavior made by a boy in the 8th grade, just like me. He found out about the rumors and he comforted me, became my friend, and always talked to me. He was the opposite of what the book mentioned about rapport talk since this is considered more of a female action than a male. He enjoyed conversing with me and comforting me. -
6.3 Ego support
When I was in the 8th grade, i had a friend who was always supprting me in a way that I would have the impression that I was competent and a worthwhile individual. She provided ego support to me, especially because she made sure I understood that I could do big things and change the way people see Deaf people in the world. Because of her, I have been a good person, working towards big goals for my life. -
7.1- Transition to High School
The transition from middle school to high school was very tough for me because I experienced the top-dog phenomenon, as well as being out of my comfort zone. In middle school, I had more deaf friends at a mainstreamed school but being in high school, there was only one other deaf student besides me. I experienced a lot of stress regarding body image, adult issues, and being able to be independent without seeming arrogrant. -
3.1 Imaginary Audience
I was in the 6th grade and I wore my cochlear implant for the first time in class. I was scared that everyone would notice it and thought I was stupid, when in fact my cochlear implant was covered by my hair. If my hair was not perfect, I thought people would make fun of me then notice the CI. This is a good example of imaginary audience because I thought all eyes were on me because I looked "different". This causes abstract thinking (of other people's thoughts) which is formal operation. -
3.2 Abstraction and Idealism
When I was 14 years old, I was very idealistic about myself. An example would be: I think that I am pretty and funny. I am Deaf and use sign language. I care about other people but I care about my family and friends the most. I am not sure what I want to do when I grow up because I can't decide between being a doctor or a vet. I was abstracting thinking and idealistic about myself and my life. I was didn't know how to describe myself other than things that were facts in my life. -
3.3 Self Comparison
When I was 14 years old, I used to always use self comparison method. An example: I don't have a huge group of friends like the cheerleaders. Why am I not as pretty as her? I wish my body was skinner so I could look better and feel more confident. I wish I didn't have to wear glasses and be able to wear makeup. When I was 14, I was always comparing myself to others because I had some self-confident issues. I also cut my hair over the summer which was not the smartest move. I am on the left. -
8.1- Rite of passage
Growing up, I did not have any kind of ceremony or ritual to establish a crossing into the adulthood; however, when I first started college, I believe it was when I started my rite of passage into adulthood. I had a lot more responsibilities. I just got my license the week before I started college, so driving was one big responsibility for me. I had to handle my own budget for gas and enterainment, pick up my sister from school everyday, and balance my time for school and friends. -
7.2- Transition to College
My transition was a little different because I graduated from high school and went straight to community college, rather than a 4 years college. I did not experience the top-dog much, but I did experience stress and a culture shock as well as increased focus on achievement and performance. We were all so "babied" in high school and in college, we were free, independent, and could do what we wanted to do. It was a different experience for me. I also met many people with diverse backgrounds. -
2.2- Niche-picking
When I went started my second semester of community college, I knew I wanted to take photography classes because I grew up in a home where my Mom always took pictures and my Dad was a photographer. I believe that my childhood/adolescence period were both evocative and active genotype environment correlations because my parents always encouraged me to do what I loved to do as well as me viewing what they did for fun. I was involved with photography for two years before switching to Psychology. -
6.1- Parent Adolescent Conflict
My parents and I always had many conflicts when I was growing up involving every day issues such as getting home at a certain time or cleaning my dishes. One of the most horrible conflicts we had was when I stayed out all night with my friend who was not underage, and at that time, I was nineteen years old. My parents had expectations for me to be home at 9pm. I did not follow that, and got in big trouble. I got grounded for the first time in my life. It is one of the conflicts that I remember. -
1.2 Emerging Adulthood
I entered this date as the day that I emerged into adulthood because that is the day my husband proposed. From that day on, I became even more independent by planning my own wedding. Afterwards, my husband and I drove cross country from California to DC to live on our own while attending Gallaudet. It was different because we had financial obiligations as well as indepdence. It fits the description from the book well because I had to be independent and responsible without our parents.
