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0-10
Infant - 18 months: Trust vs. Mistrust
18 months - 3 years: Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt
3 years - 5 years: Initiative vs. Guilt
5 years - 10 years: Industry vs Inferiority -
Birth
I was born on November 27, 1999. I was 21 inches and weighed 7 lbs 4oz. I was born at Community Medical Center in Toms River, New Jersey, the same place where my mother, father, and two brothers were born. My parents, Kimberly and Jeffrey Saxton Sr., provided everything Owen, Jeffrey Jr., and I needed. We weren't the richest, but we were also not the poorest - we got by just fine. We are an Americanized combination of Polish and Irish lifestyles. -
Dad Passes Away
When I was just 5 years old, my dad passed away from colon cancer. It was a struggle trying to adjust my life without him in it, and continues to impact my future years. I was forced to mature at a young age and face difficulties from a different perspective. -
Disney
This was the first vacation my mother, my brothers and I took since the passing of my dad. We had always planned to go together and continued to do so. This event helped us realize that we can't stop living and need to continue on as normal. This vacation also brought the four of us closer together. -
Mom Remarries
I gained another brother and a sister, Jimmy and Ellen. Jim became my step dad and I finally had another male figure in my life. -
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10-20
10 years - 13 years: Industry vs Inferiority
13 years - 20 years: Identity vs. Role Confusion -
First Niece is Born
I became an aunt and learned to love a little kid more than I knew I could. Addison Mae Winkle was born and stole my heart. I had to adjust to having a baby around because being the youngest, I never had to deal with any kids younger than me around so it was a big adjustment adding her into the mix. -
Drivers License
By getting my license, I gain more freedom than I previously had. I am able to go to places by myself and not have to worry about my mom driving me to and from places. This event shifts toward a more independent life. -
High School Graduation
I finish up my required schooling and finally head off onto college in the spring. With graduating high school, I am no longer seen as a child in the eyes of many adults and begin to gain more responsibilities. -
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20-30
20 years - 21 years: Identity vs. Role Confusion
21 years - 30 years: Intimacy vs. Isolation -
College Graduation
With graduating college comes more responsibility and the actual life of adulthood. From here, I needed to be able to support myself and with the chances of going to grad school. This event is a transition from a student who's main job was school to an adult who actually needs job to pay off my college debt. -
Job at Prudential Center
I got hired to work at Prudential Center with the New Jersey Devils doing event planning and management after interning with them. With this, I am did a combination of what I love; I had the chance to organize and plan things along with being around ice hockey. -
Wedding
I got married in the spring of 2028 to my husband I met through mutual friends. This event was an ultimate connection between me and the man I love in a lifetime commitment. After the wedding, we went on our honeymoon to Bora Bora. -
First Home
A few months after being married, my husband and I decided it was time for us to move out of our apartment and buy our own home. We purchased a 3 bedroom home on a little more than an acre of land. The home was not perfect and we needed to do a little bit of work to it. There was plenty of room for entertaining and we began hosting many gatherings here! -
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30-40
30 years - 39 years: Intimacy vs. Isolation
39 years - 40 years: Generatively vs. Stagnation -
First Born Child
In the summer of 2031, I had my first child. My husband and I named him Cameron Jeffrey, after my father. He became my whole world and he had me wrapped around his finger since the day he was born. My husband and I became closer through having CJ and learned how to communicate more effectively. -
CJ Starts School
In September of 2036, CJ started Kindergarten. It was hard the first couple of weeks with him being gone all day, but I began to adjust my life to give him his independence. He loved school and making friends with other kids in his class. -
Stay-At-Home Mom
After discussing it with my husband, we decided it would be best if I stayed at home during the day so I could be more involved in our kids lives. My husband, being a professional hockey player, provided us with a stable income so money was not a factor when making the decision. I began my own business that I could run from home just to keep me busy and put money towards the children's savings accounts and our retirement fund. -
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40-50
40 years - 50 years: Intimacy vs. Isolation -
Big Vacation
Although we took family vacations every year, my husband and I decided to take a trip for just the two of us. We went to Ireland, since we are both Irish. This opened our eyes to the beauty in our past and the beauty our future held. -
Addison Gets Married
Addison got married in the summer of 2042 to her high school sweetheart. She asked me to be in her wedding party because we stayed so close throughout her life. She saw me as a best friend and an aunt. It was crazy to see how grownup she had become and how beautiful, inside and out, she was. -
Book Club
With getting older and having free time on my hands, my girlfriends and I decided to create a book club.... which is just an excuse to hangout with one another away from our husbands, drink wine and gossip! -
CJ Graduates High School
With CJ graduating high school, I was an emotional wreck! My first child was all grown up. CJ received a scholarship to play ice hockey at multiple Division I universities, including Notre Dame and Boston University. After thinking about it for a while, CJ decided upon Boston University since it was closer to home and he felt comfortable in the area. -
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50-60
50 years - 60 years: Intimacy vs. Isolation -
Midlife Crisis
With the kids going off to college, I began to feel empty. I decided to fill this void with a vacation home in Florida, a new dog, and a Jaguar F-PACE. It was hard for me to understand that I am getting older and my kids are now adults. -
Seeking Adventure
After feeling old, I decided to add a little adventure to my life. To do this, I went sky-diving and learned how to scuba dive. I felt that it is never too late to try something new. -
Passing of Mom
This was one of the hardest things for me in my life. After being so close to her, losing her was so difficult. She left her vacation home for me and my brothers to share. She also set aside money for Owen, Jeff, and I to go on vacation and spread her ashes on a beautiful beach. -
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60-70
60 years - 65 years: Intimacy vs. Isolation
65 years - 70 years: Ego Integrity vs. Despair -
First Grandchild
While Cameron was the oldest child, my middle child Preston was the first to have a child. I enjoyed being a grandmother because I was able to experience having babies around again but give them back to their parents at the end of the day. It was so amazing to see my babies have babies of their own. -
Ice Hockey Rink
With retirement, my husband and I were looking for something new to do. We decided to purchase a local ice hockey rink. Our grandchildren spent most of their time here, learning how to play and train whenever they wanted to. -
Retirement
Operating the business I had began was starting to become too much for me in my old age. I sold the company and put all of the money towards my retirement and vacations. By selling the company, I was able to live a luxurious life without working. -
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70-80
70 years - 80 years: Ego Integrity vs. Despair -
Move
After multiple arguments, my husband and I decide to sell our house. We no longer need all of the room since everyone moved out. We downsized and moved into a smaller home on the beach. The home was big enough to still have people over but small enough so that our children couldn't move back home! -
Boredom Strikes
I began to expand the ice hockey rink and the business because I got bored. This provided an extra income. Although the money was not needed, it was nice to have the security blanket there in case anything were to happen. -
Bucket List
I realized that my time would be ending soon so I finish up the last few things on my bucket list. With this, I feel accomplished and realized that age is just a number. I felt a sense of joy and it was invigorating. -
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80-90
80 years - 90 years: Ego Integrity vs. Despair -
Great Grandchild
I witnessed the birth of my great granddaughter. This was one of the most marvelous things in my life. I was able to see something I never thought would happen. Seeing my child as a grandparent made me realize how old I actually was. -
Cancer
At the age of 87, I was diagnosed with colon cancer. I knew this would come since I lost most of my relatives to cancer. I opted against treatments and took this experience as a way to appreciate living in the moment. -
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Death
I passed away at the age of 83 after losing an ongoing battle to cancer. I left behind my 3 children, Cameron, Preston, and Fiona and my 7 grandchildren. I was cremated. My children went on vacation and spread some of my ashes there.
