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6.2- Ego support
I definitely have ego supports with my childhood friends. They give support, encouragement, and give us advice/feedback to help us to look impression, attractive and make me a worthwhile individuals. I did same thing for them. Even now, we still do that for each other. -
3.1 Imaginary audience
I remember so clearly when I was a kid, I cut a pant to a very short skirt and I wrote " Sexy" on the "skirt" and I wore it. I wanted everyone to notice and know that I am sexy. The imaginary audience I was getting because I was attempting to get noticed and be visible by others to think that I am "sexy". (Oh lord, that is funny!) It is a very good example! Formal operational thinking can be related to this because I think of others and their opinion matters to me. -
4.1 Gender-type behavior
When I become the teenager on Dec 1, 2006. I remember clearly that I am affectionate, I love children, I have an understanding and I was very nice. I was nice to my nephews and nieces. I love them so much and I still do. I was nice to my parents too I helped cleaning and did well with schoolwork. But I never listened to them about religious. It was very hard growing in muslim house especially with my personality and me being female. -
6.1- parent adolsecent conflict
When I turned 13 years old and when my parents found out that I started my menstrual cycle. It was the unpleasant experience for me. They said that I had to wear hijab to cover my head. My mom had to check if I am a virgin or not. It was the worst moment for me. I was so confused and so angry. They had to force me to wear hijab. Their expectation didn't match what I want. They are very strict and their style is authoritarian parenting but WITH RELIGIOUS parenting. They are still, now. -
8.1- rite passage
The rite passage happened when my parents found out I had period. The rite passage that I didn't choose and would never understand. When they found out, said that I have to cover my head with hijab and to cover my clothes. They said that because I am older it means I have to cover them. From my understanding right now that when I got period my body is ready to have sex. Yes it matches the materials in the text. -
2.1 Typical Maturer
I didn't start it too early or too late. I started at the right time when I was thirteen years old. I didn't realize that both early and later maturers can make an impact on women's body, especially with the ovaries. If I will start too early, I may go through what my niece has been through. She started it very early, sometime her period will last a month, or sometime nothing for two months. She always has the largest period pad because she bleeds so much. -
1.1 Entering Adolescence
The first thing I think of " Adolescence" is having my first period. The momemt I have my first period, I grows big, including my breasts and my hip. I start to have little curve on my both sides. I start to grow hair, including my public hair. It also has changed my attitude, I've become very rebellious and still now! This date really changed my life. -
2.2- Niche-picking
I am definitely more of active (niche-picking) I read a lot of books in past time. I read a lot of scientific fiction, the true story based, and romance gene. I play basketball and soccer every day. I was definitely NOT influenced by gene especially women in my family. No ones play basketball and soccer until me. Men in my family have play basketball and soccer. My family are strictly Muslims and they think that women shouldn't play. Maybe I can be influenced by men in my family. -
3.3 Social Comparison
I remember long time ago that I had to compare myself to those popular girls in middle school. Those girls were so popular because of their looks and their bodies. They had nice clothes. But I keep telling myself that I am smarter than them and that it doesn't matter. My best childhood ladies always remind me that I am smarter than those girls and that I will live a better life than them. Funny. -
3.2 Abstraction
I remember the past time that I described myself as a human being and not a terrorist. I described myself that I am a good person and that I am strong. I really have a connected to my inner soul. -
4.2- Non-gender typed behavior
It is an identity. It is about self-esteem, self-worth, and self-image. When I was a teenager. I had acne on my face. People laugh because I have big breasts so of course I was hurt. People had bullied me because my family are Muslims. I had a weak identity. I had bullied by others all my life. Boys has been bullied as well and it impacts us. It hurts our identity. It was so bad. -
7.2- Transition to College
After going to college. I had a big transition. I go to school without my parents and family. They can't tell me what to do. I make my decision everyday. However it is very stressful with the peers, strict professors, so many homework. My personal life is already hard and I still handle difficulties everyday. I see diversity everyday. I have developed my independence everyday especially with the job and making money.