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My Birth
On May 15th, 2004 I came into the world and started a family as I was the first born. My mom was a single mom which created role strain as she was taking care of me while suffering from severe post-partum depression. She has expressed to me in recent years that my biological father not being in my life as an infant didn’t seem to have an effect on me at the time because my papa stepped up to fill that role, he was in the room with my mom for my birth and has taken care of me ever since that day. -
Moving in with my step dad
Garrett came into our lives when I was one and moved in with us by the time I was two. At first, the two of us had a small conflict only because I didn't like seeing my moms attention on someone else but that quickly changed to not wanting anyone else to have Garretts attention other than myself. Him living with us created a small role conflict seeing as he had a long commute to work and was still in collage. This was my first experience with what "social norms" would consider to be a family. -
First day of school
I had been looking forward to this day for a very long time prior. As an infant/ toddler I was very socialized therefore, I was ready for school before a lot of my age group. It is at this stage of life that I feel children start their own life in a new social institution that is not their family. This was a very big day for my family because I was the only child at the time, my biological dad came back into my life a year prior to this and he drove 6 hours to be there to drop me off at school. -
My first sibling was born
The day my brother was born was the best day of my life. Jax was the first baby I ever held which seemed like a rite of passage at the time. Right away we had our own little cohort and there was a point in time where I was the only one able to calm him down when he was fussy. As a product of that my mom called me "the mini mom" which she still refers to me as to date. Adding another addition to the family was a learning curve for all of us seeing as it was my step dads first child. -
My parents getting a divorce
When I was in gr. 10 my parents decided they no longer wanted to be together. This was ultimately the best decision for all of us because we were all dealing with the repercussions and it was effecting us as a whole. At this point in my life a considered my step dad my dad and called him as so, however seeing the way he treated my mom was very traumatic and made me question what I deem to be a father figure. This a big transition for us as out status changed to a single parent family. -
University
In my near future I plan on making a transition to university. I would like to study psychology and hopefully pursue a career in that. Being on my own for the first time is very scary to think about but I feel like the events I've been through thoughout my life have prepared me for this next stage of my life. I plan to have a job so I am able to support myself and hopefully get an apartment so i am able to focus more on my studies. I plan to hopefully go to Carleton University in Ottawa. -
Career
After post secondary I plan to move onto to being a psychologist that specializes in children. Throughout my life time I've had many experiences with mental health professionals as a result of personal events, I feel as though I will strive at this career because I want to do something that makes a difference in the lives of individuals. I'm choosing to specialize in children because it is so important in my eyes to make sure the younger generations receives the help they need to be successful. -
Marriage
I hope to get married in my late 20s so I can start my family. Hopefully I will meet a man in university that I want to spend the rest of my life with and has the same values that want to pass onto my future family. I would like marry a man who is driven and who i can build a successful relationship with because I do not want to marrying and then end up getting divorced. I would like him to be an active member of his family and make decisions based on our life together to help us grow as a unit. -
First home
Once I am in a loving committed relationship with the one I will marry it is time to start thinking about our future home that our family will expand into. I would like to live with my partner before hand but when it comes to our family home I feel as though we will wait until we are married to buy or build a house together. I'm not sure whether I would like to move back to bancroft but ideally I will still live in a small town because I want my family to grow in a similar atmosphere I did. -
Children
After getting married I hope to start a family by my early 30s. I've always loved children and I feel I will be a very good mother based on my past experiences because I've had a role in raising my siblings so I have strong maternal tendencies. In a perfect world i would like to have a boy first and then a girl because growing up my older boy cousins acted as my older brothers and I loved the protection and security that provided. I plan to raise my children to be compassionate little humans.